Attitudes are pretty important in this life. Attitude is defined as manner, disposition, feeling, position, etc., with regard to a person or thing; tendency or orientation, especially of the mind.An attitude is a favorable or unfavorable evaluation of something.
Wikipedia says, “Attitudes are generally positive or negative views of a person, place, thing, or event— this is often referred to as the attitude object. People can also be conflicted or ambivalent toward an object, meaning that they simultaneously possess both positive and negative attitudes toward the item in question.”
We cannot change the past or how others act, but we can change our reactions and attitude. A positive attitude is a vital asset at any time. Presenting with a positive attitude often helps others(but not always) to lighten up. I recently read that it is not what happens to me that matters, but what happens in me. Now if you are truly honest, you know this is true.
Hugh Downs said, “a happy person is not a person with a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.” Hmm, back to that attitude word.
Here is another example of courageous attitude in the most despicable environments. Viktor Frankl, was in a Nazi concentration camp and he told his persecutors, “The one thing you cannot take away from me is the way I chose to respond to what you do to me. The last of ones freedoms is to chose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.” I hear in his words, the victors song, not the victim. Man I wonder if I could do what he did. Surely, God’s grace helped him.
And remember Clara Barton? Apparently, she was treated terribly and wronged in a large way. Yet when her friend reminded her of it, she merely shrugged and said, “I distinctly remember forgetting that!”
Do you know that this kind of forgetfulness or forgiveness is freeing. For when we hold on to attitudes of resentment, anger and bitterness because of what others say or do, it really binds you up. You loose inner freedom and opportunities to move on with your life in a healthier way.
When you have a negative attitude that you hold onto it not only hurts you, but other people catch it,like the common cold. Achooo, now you have it! Yuck! Ever hear of hardening of the arteries, atherosclerosis? Well, you can also have psychoscleroses, hardening of the attitude per Ashley Montagee.
Dang, we watch our diets, we go exercise, we buy cloths to make us look attractive yet we often fail to loose our bad attitudes, we hold onto pyschoscleroses.
Max Depree said, “in the end, it is important to remember that we cannot become what we need to be by remaining what you are not.”
OK, by now I would hope you realize that we all have some attitudes that need to go. I know I do. It is kind of like gardening, you need to pull the weeds and sometimes you need to pull them daily.
But before you can pull weeds, you have to identify them. You need to identify your problem feelings, problem behavior and problem thinking. And replace these weeds with flowers, simple daisies or roses or whatever flower. Bloom where you are planted and keep the best attitudes you can while you bloom. Be patient and persistent. After all, God is not done with you yet.